When a marriage is falling apart, hurt is usually the first emotion felt. It hurts to feel like you’ve failed as a husband or a wife. It hurts to know that the person you were so in love with is no longer in love with you. It hurts to realize all the things you could have done but are now too late to do to save your marriage from getting to this point.

Yes, you deal with a lot of hurt. So what do you do to overcome this hurt and move forward toward trying to save your marriage?

1) Understand that hurt is a part of the process and accept it, but also move away from lingering and focusing on the hurt.

2) Know that the feeling of betrayal can either consume you or make you stronger.

3) Rely on God’s grace and His strength to help you overcome the hurt and convert it to joy. You can do this by spending time reading His word and seeing how, throughout the Scriptures, God has turned those with many reasons to be angered and hurt into some of His most effective followers.

4) Don’t go through it alone. Find those that are close friends (of the same sex) to talk with. But make sure not to hang around negative people, but instead become accountability partners with those who will walk with you through this time with encouragement and strength.

As you learn to convert the hurt, anger, worry, depression and other emotions that you feel while standing for your marriage to positive emotions you will increase the likelihood of saving your marriage.

Want a daily, step-by-step guide to help you while standing for your marriage? Shipping the first week of March is a new standers workbook called “Standing for My Marriage – The 8-week Step-by-Step Guide and Journal that walks with you as you stand for the healing of your marriage”.

You can pre-order it now and save $5 off the normal $14.95 list price. If you want to combine the order with my first book Seth’s Seashell Methods of Marriage you can do so for just $23. And, as always, if you order it from the SeashellMarriage.com website I’ll pay to ship it to you.

To order, go here http://seashellmarriage.com/store/

Only 25% of all married couples in America consider their marriage to be good or great. 75% say their marriage is either falling apart or they would not be surprised if they do not remain married for the rest of their life. It starts with one person…you, making the decisions to do what’s right even if you feel you are not being treated right yourself. Even if you are already separated you can find hope by learning how to love again and treating your spouse, even if they’re not at home, with love, honor and respect.

No words can convict the spouse that has left and encourage their return home more than living a changed life in front of them; showing your love for them even though you don’t feel it returned to you right now.

Have a blessed week…and take a look at the new book…the Guide & Journal. It will walk with you as your stand for your marriage!

Seth

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