If you’re fighting to save a marriage that your spouse doesn’t want to save, at some point the hurt is going to convert to anger and frustration. This is normal and part of the process of standing. But allowing that anger to take root will make it difficult to ever save your marriage because your spouse will sense the tension and frustration and will likely run farther away from you.

However, showing love and goodness to those who expect the opposite from you (especially if they feel they deserve the opposite) can have an incredible effect on them as well as on you.

Loving those seemingly unworthy gives you an incredible sense of peace and joy amidst what may be the most difficult time in your life. It also provides a welcoming atmosphere to the one who has strayed far from home.

Maybe your situation is one where you’ve messed up your marriage and your spouse no longer trusts you. Maybe it’s the other way around. No matter the situation, there is no better way to show your willingness to receive them back home than to love when you’ve been hurt and show kindness when it has not been shown to you.

You won’t be able to dictate when or if they will be receptive to your love. That’s not your choice to make. It may take days or even years if they are hardened to you right now. But you cannot lose by always showing love. Your choice is not when they change, but it is when you love. That is true love. That is the love Jesus has shown to you.

If you want a daily step-by-step guide to walk with you as you stand for the healing of your marriage that will help you as you seek to overcome hurt, anger, depression, control and others during the stand for your marriage, check out the new Guide & Journal called Standing for My Marriage. It ships the end of this week and still available to pre-order at only $9.95 or only $23 when combined with the paperback copy of Seth’s Seashell Methods of Marriage. It will take you through the journey of standing for your marriage and how, in 8 weeks, to move toward a better, more God-centered life.

Have a great week no matter what you feel today!

Seth

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